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Walking around campus and
overhearing a group of single students talk about their dating lives results in
two choices: slow down to catch the interesting stories or walk
faster because it’s painful to hear.
For married students, overhearing single
students talk about their dating lives can either bring back memories of their
dating days or cause them to want to stop and give single people dating tips
because, after all, they’ve been through the “dating game.”
Katie Skovran, a married student who recently
graduated from BYU in English, recalls times when she overheard single people
talk about their dating experiences.
“Sometimes I feel frustrated for
them because I used to be analytical about dating and would over read into
things when I was single,” Skovran said. “Now, I know that it can work out and
everything doesn’t need to be perfect. It will end up right in the end, and
people shouldn’t worry too much about dating.”
Katie’s husband, Steven Skovran, who is
studying exercise science, also feels that single people over analyze dating
and should take a less stressful approach.
“I wish guys and girls wouldn’t just play the
game and be more honest with each other,” Steven Skovran said. “Understand what
a first date is for, which is to get to know someone. Just because someone asks
you on a date doesn’t mean that they want to marry you.”
For single people overhearing married people
talk about their lives, responsibilities and routines, the
subjects will either be interesting to them or just plain strange.
Everywhere in the world there
are stereotypes about
certain people — even at BYU. Though there is a good mixture of married
and single students, BYU freshman McCall Lewis, a nursing major, agrees that
it’s easy for single and married people to place stereotypes on each
other.
“A stereotype that single people place on
married people is that they are boring,” McCall said. “Also, I think a lot of
single people think that some people are too young to be married.”
BYU professor Mark Ogletree
teaches Living Prophets and Marriage Preparation and has noticed the change
in responsibility for
many married couples. He has seen these changes both through his personal
experience in his marriage and through seeing married students at BYU go
through the transition of single life to married life.
“All of a sudden, when you get married it’s no
longer about you,” Ogletree said. “Now you have someone you have to share your
life with. Now it falls on you to really try to meet the needs of someone
else.”
Single BYU students who have friends get
married understand that their relationship with their friend will go through
some changes.
BYU sophomore Jai Knighton, a dance major,
also finds that married people’s outlook on life changes.
“Priorities change and dedication to work and
school generally takes over, which leaves behind the social scene of young
adults,” he said.
Carly Peterson, a BYU junior studying early
childhood education, feels that being married doesn’t put her ahead of single
people.
“…Being married doesn’t make me feel
more mature,” Carly Peterson said. “I feel that rather I’ve been
through different life experiences. I am still pretty young, and I look at
older people who are still single as more mature than me … because they’re
older and have had more life experiences.”
Tight end shot of the married person holding up her ring making an L signifying loser towards a single person.
Medium Shot of Taylor showing off her proud pride of being single.
Over the shoulder shot of a married person looking strangely at the single person.
Wide shot of married person ignoring single person as single person dances
Obscure shot of a wedding ring
